- “I know I SHOULD have the salad, but I’m going to get a burger instead.”
- “I SHOULDN’T have said that in the meeting.”
- “I know I SHOULD exercise, but I’m just too tired.”
- “I SHOULD have had already put up the Christmas decorations, but I just don’t feel like it.”
Scolding never motivates
Stop Shoulding on Yourself
Please…stop “shoulding” on yourself. Each time you scold yourself with “I should…”, you’re really beating yourself up, telling you that you’re wrong or weak or fat or lazy or fill-in-the-blank with another negative.
Putting down others never helps to motivate them to change – and putting down yourself isn’t motivating, either! Think of it – would you put up with someone that talks to YOU that way? Of course not. So, don’t talk to yourself that way either. There’s a better way to get results.
Could Instead of Should
- I could order the salad, but I’m really in the mood for a burger. I could just eat half – that’s about the same number of calories as the salad.
- I can’t take back what I said at today’s meeting. Next time I get confronted like that I’m going to say….
- I could exercise, but I’m tired. I think I’ll make a plan to go for a walk during my lunch break…before I get too tired.
- I could put up the Christmas decorations, but I really don’t feel like it. I think I’ll just put up the tree. That’s what really means the most to me.
There now…doesn’t that feel better?